We've all been there. Something just happened that pissed us right off and we immediately start 'shoulding' on ourselves.
I 'should' know better....
I 'should' look for the blessings.
I know I'm out of alignment and need to fix this ASAP!
I know I'm triggered and this is MY stuff.
Bottom line: I 'shouldn't' feel this way. And yet we do. We feel it viscerally and the more we shove it away or avoid or distract, the more it screams "Pay attention to me!!"
The same way you can't slap a happy face sticker on dog poop and call it good, you can't bury an emotion by rationalizing or avoiding or distraction.
E-motion=energy in motion. So what happens when we 'should' on ourselves or avoid or distract? The emotion comes to a halt. It becomes stagnant in our Being- exactly what we are trying to avoid!
So what can you do? I'm not asking you to live in it. Don't welcome it in to stay. Just for now, follow the emotion. Where do you feel it in your body? Give it a name. Share it with a safe person. Find a way of release that works for you. Get it out of your body. Write an anger letter, scream, go for a run, hit a pillow.
You'll know it works for you because you will feel it. Anger may turn into tears. Go with it.
You'll also know when you're done. You will feel the release.
Then it's time for The Rise. Now you can feel for the next loving thought and work your way up the emotional scale.
But first, the release.